Ya I had considered emailing you and asking you the same thing. I have read a lot of your posts over the past couple of days and kinda wondered if your wife was aware of any of this. I support the amount of bravery you have taken to share your personal experiences and beliefs with the internets. Keep it comin, I love it all.

Oh, I have had my world blow to all hell and back due to my blog. Of course, I was fucking stupid and put my entire name on the damn thing (You think Donna is naive about the internet? You should have known me a year ago).

I had some really serious consequences of it all. Then again, I'm also negotiating to sell a story off my blog to the National Enquirer, (Seriously? Seriously.)so the level of fun-weird that occurs often makes it worth while.

Blog on, my friend.

I know and love Pete and Donna and family...I even care about the inlaws. I know they see me as pure evil for not being mormon or for still caring about my friend Pete no matter what he does.

I am not evil, of course, and I just do that thing that defines friendship. I focus on what I like about Pete and what I agree with and approve of. I am not a judge of Pete's life nor am I unaware of his faults and things that could be considered choices I might not agree with.

I do not ask friends to qualify for friendship. Pete is like a brother to me. No matter what happens, I know that Pete will be just as I expect, imperfect and human like I am.

Donna may associate me with a Pete's journey out of mormonism, she may think I am complicitly in approval of everything he does. That was never so. I simply don't know everything Pete does and I don't need to approve or disapprove. I am a friend to an imperfect human being and that's all I expect.

All these "imperfects and bad choices" are just to point out the principle. Pete is a good guy and this is his therapy as I see it. It is entertaining, like a Fox Drama, and if it helps him keep what's good in his life without bursting under the pressure of what could be a little better, then good for him, I will never fuck up his coping mechanism. Donna may say I should talk to her, but it is not my place.

Why meddle in a marriage? It can sort itself out as the participants see fit.

Maybe this blog will open discussions of things that pressure other marriages too and that makes it valuable in that way too.
=sw

I feel torn when I read your entries, Pete. Part of me feels I cannot live without the updates of your life .. I am absolutley absorbed in your blog! I also believe it is theraputic and completely necessary to just be able to vent..and to say how you feel without the significant others giving their stupid input on everything we say and do (no offense to Donna of course).
However, I can't help feel a little mortified when it applies to my own life. How would I feel if I found out that my sig other was keeping a secret blog about our lives? What if he posted my horrible flaws, or told my secrets? Would I find that the person I love and trust is maybe not so trustworthy? Yikes! Im freaking myself out.
How cool would it be, though, if we all found out that our significant others were posting their real true feelings on a blog somewhere, and we could read it in secret to find out where we really stand with them?
Nevertheless,thank you Pete for letting us all know that we are not alone in the world. You rock.

i guess i am just like all of your other readers. GREAT. just when i thought i might be different. ;)

would she be upset that you wrote about it? or would she be upset at the TRUTH of it all?

truth is hard to swallow. you know something is true when it touches a nerve.

thanks for sharing.

I think I might just be falling for this Danny guy!

I don't think you've posted anything here that is that shocking. Of course, I'm not a good Christian woman. I hope you're never exposed, Pete, I'd really miss your posts!

I have been reading your blog for a few days and feel a bit compelled to comment on this one.

If I were to find out that my husband had been keeping a blog of our life, I would be upset at first. I would probably be upset for quite a while. Then I would get around to reading it and the posts. As much as it would probably hurt to read the honesty and the poking fun at the relationship and such, I would be thankful for a new way to understand my husband. What we say to each other and write to each other can be different than what we write/say to others. The difference with a blog is that he has had time to figure out the words he wants to use and I wouldn't be getting the information second hand..."well, I think he said this...".

We have been married for 9 years, no kids but support two other adult family members. We were sealed on our 2 year anniversary and have recently figured out that "the church" is ludicrously controlling and a complete farce. We still wear garments, but that could change....I had to go look at my rear in the mirror after an entry that said something about it looking like an iceberg?

Anyhoo, I'm just letting you know that there is hope for Donna! I was raised Catholic and chose to convert to Mormonism...I know, weird jump. So, I have a "sex filter" as my husband calls it. I have to fight it every day, but it has become easier the longer I work on it. I think the turning point was when he remarked "my gosh woman, I am your husband. We are supposed to have sex!" Then I started working through the guilt filter. Be gentile, but keep with her and good luck!