Good point. I would say, however, that much of Pete posts about you points out that he loves you and your kids very much. And, remember, he is a MAN.

it's easier to write than it is to say something to someone's face. i'm not making excuses, i'm just sayin..

i've read many of pete's posts and woman to woman (yeah, i realize i'm a complete stranger) i don't think you have a single thing to feel stupid about. give the readers of this blog some credit...we ALL know there are two sides to every story.

secretly, i'm pulling for the two of you to find a way to make it work. you've got at least four good reasons and probably more than that. i bet other readers are pulling for you too...but i don't want to speak for them.

p.s. i enjoy reading your other blog...

Sorry Pete, but I'm with Donna. And I do agree that a lot of times it helps to write things out if you feel like you can't say them, but there's a difference between keeping a private journal and publishing a blog that anyone can read.

Donna, if I were you I'd be pissed and demand that he stop writing about our marriage, I think that it's your right as one half of that relationship to ask that your private matters be kept private.

For the record, I'm pulling for you guys to make it too, but sometimes I read Pete's posts and wonder if they don't cause even more problems for your relationship.

I can see how many of the things that Pete writes would be hurtful, but the readers know two things 1) he loves you and 2) we don't hear your side of most stories.
I read one of his posts (sorry don't know where it was) that said something like: no matter what I write about my wife, make no mistake that I love her. and I always have that post in the back of my mind when I read other posts.
I think you are a strong woman, with a great sense of humor and amazing decorating skills. :) Hang in there.

Pete sub-title should read "Fiddleygomme" exposing my wife! I do appreciate that many people reading Pete's blogs are strangers and haven't even begun to realize the full extent of our marriage. Yesterday I was in a particularly vulerable mood.

I am a strong woman. I have wonderful qualities that have never been mentioned and sometimes that makes me wonder how much I have been taken for granted. As one friend said "you have been sorta an asshole to her." I mean, for heaven sakes, I am not totally crazy.

Remember that the opposite of love is not hate or disdain but apathy. If Pete didn't love you totally he wouldn't write the things he does. He obviously knows you well, and you him. I have a real sense of how much Pete loves you. I am in a similar situation (re: the church and family) and find myself wishing my wife would handle things more like you. In fact, I have a distant but deep blog-crush on you. You are very strong. I have great hope for your marriage.

Donna,

It's always good to hear from you - you should post more often.

Sometimes the best that I think can be said for Pete is that he's honest, even when it's painful. It's something I admire (within limits!) and wish I could emulate. The problem is that sometimes it's painful for someone other than Pete, and usually that someone is you.

I'm struggling with some of the same issues that Pete writes about (concerning belief in CJCLDS), but I try to see both sides. Your occasional posts help me to get a handle on how my wife may be seeing things.